Women & Men

Can a woman really drive a man crazy?
It depends on the man. If he is wise he becomes a henpecked husband;
if he is not so wise, then there is no other way than to be crazy.
That's why ninety-nine point nine percent of men decide to be
henpecked husbands ? just to survive.
Nothing is wrong with the woman; she is not deliberately trying to
drive you crazy. It is just that their minds function in a totally
different way. In fact that is their attraction; their polarities
function like a magnetic field. The more different a woman is, the
more she will attract you. If she is like you, thinks the way you
think, the attraction will be lost. There will be no tension; the
relationship will collapse.
The relationship is like an arch. When you make an arch you put bricks
against each other; their very opposition creates the strength, and
the arch can support the whole building. But the strength depends on
the opposition.
A living relationship between a man and a woman is bound to be a
little bit crazy. The man cannot drive the woman crazy because his
argument, his way of thinking, is logical. The woman's way of thinking
is illogical, but that is her way; that's how she is made. She
functions instinctively at the lowest and intuitively at the highest.
Man functions intellectually at the lowest and intelligently at the
highest. The way of instinct and intuition is the way of illogic.
Logic cannot drive the illogical person crazy; if anything is going to
happen it is going to happen to the logical mind.
Craziness is part of the logical mind. Craziness simply means your
logic is no more functioning and you are at a loss what to do. You
love the woman, you would not like to lose her. You try in every way
to understand her. But whatsoever you do, you are also helpless ? you
can do only logically. And logically she is not comprehensible; that
way she is very mysterious. You can devote your whole life to studying
a single woman and you will not be able to figure out what is what.
She never tries to understand you. The illogical functioning of the
psyche is not interested in understanding; it simply reaches to the
conclusions without any procedures ? it jumps to the conclusions. And
the miracle is that the woman is almost always right, and you are
almost always wrong. That drives you crazy!
A woman won the lottery. When the husband came he was surprised. He
asked how she managed. She said, "In a dream the figure 7 appeared
three times. So I figured out that three times seven means
twenty-eight."
The husband was aghast. He said, "Then what happened?"
She said, "I purchased the ticket with the number twenty-eight and I
won the lottery."
The husband said, "But three times seven is not twenty-eight, it is twenty-one!"
The woman said, "Then you be the mathematician, but I have won the lottery!"
If you watch the functioning of the woman's mind you can see it
clearly: it is impossible to understand it. The very effort will drive
you crazy. It is not just accidental that Buddha escaped from his
wife, Mahavira escaped from his wife. You cannot escape from the
world. Where will you escape to? At the most you can escape from the
woman who is driving you crazy.
A woman can really drive a man crazy, but still your cooperation will be needed.
Without your cooperation nobody can drive you crazy. If you stop
trying to understand her and start enjoying her, she cannot drive you
crazy. If you try to understand her, naturally you will stop enjoying
her, and then she is bound to drive you crazy.
Rejoice in her! Rejoice in her differences, rejoice in her different
approaches towards life. Rejoice that she is not a man but a woman.
She does not think like you. Not only is her body different from
yours, her psyche is also different. And once you forget trying to
understand her, there is no way for her to drive you crazy.
When you are "with your woman, put your mind aside. Become more
existential and less intellectual. Love her, dance with her, sing with
her, but don't try to argue with her. As far as argument is concerned,
always agree with her and you will never be at a loss. And anyway,
even if you argue, finally you will have to agree with her.